NEVER DATE SOMEONE BECAUSE YOU HAVE PITY FOR THE PERSON.

In my book relationship, i spoke about this topic shortly, but want to elaborate on it. It was based on an experience which took me months to recover. I met a lady online, listened to her problems and thought “ooohh, I need to have pity on her and date her, maybe that will prove that there are better men and i can handle her properly. Little did i know that i was stepping into a great trouble. Someone who was actually coming to messup a reputation i have built for years. It was soo bad to the point where she could inbox some of my female friends on facebook and talk hushly to them. Even people under my comment section also suffered her fate. I had to beg her and have great pity for myself before finally stepping out. Listen carefully,

You see, this may not happen to you but in your own small way you have had some regrets allowing some people into your space. Someone you compromised your dreams for, your time and energy.

That alone will make you regret the decision you took and make you want to go back into time.

Its as if you thought you were doing them a favour only to realise that you were causing yourself great harm just for trusting them.

Emotional investment is something priceless, so you should be very careful who you allow into your space. Not everybody needs to get the attention you have. You don't just allow people into your space because you feel you are lonely or you think oneday you may need them.

Be very intentional about who you bring into your life. Because mostly the people you have pity for, are the ones who mess you up and make you think you are just a burden, they don’t even need you anymore. Some even get to the point of making you regret spending time with them.

So next time you try to allow someone into your life, take time to understand who the person really is, and how they will help improve your mental health or your business or your knowledge on a particular topic. Some friendships dont necessary need to involve lots of investment. Good and long friendships take time to build. And such friendships become priceless over the years. So don't rush it. If its meant to be, it will be.

Thanks for reading.